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So I finally finished reading The Secret. Took me a little longer than it should have but I am reading another book at the same time so my attention was divided. Here are my thoughts on it. For the mot part the novel's message was pretty good and I am well into the process of making my best attempts to give the logic a go. Towards the final two chapters they lost me a bit with the metaphysical energy, we-are-all-part-of-the-one talk. Too sciencey and new agey for my blood. But at it's very base concept the message behind the secret is one I think you can't go wrong following. I think our base nature is to go against the logic and shake our heads at people who try it. However, once you have read it and understood it, you might find yourself shaking your head at the people who don't follow it. The message is clear: think, be, act positive. Do what makes you happy. Think happy thoughts, desire happiness. Stop fighting against and strive for.
It actually takes a little more work than I thought. We can easily slide down a path of negative thought but the secret asks that you be conscience of that and stop it. Be in the moment and be aware of your feelings. Not just mentally but physically because negative feelings can affect our bodies. Since reading this book I have become more aware of how my negative feelings affect me physically and try my best to get out of any funk I'm in. Sometimes its just focusing on things I love to do or even watching a quick episode of Golden Girls (which always makes me happy) or just writing down how I'm feeling. Recently I felt bad about something and I sent a couple of friends an email about how I was feeling. Even before I got their responses I was already on the road to feeling better. What I didn't want to do, and what I have been prone to do, is obsess over things enough to keep me up at night. Very draining.
Every day is a work in progress for me but I see it working in small ways and I have absolute faith, to the point that I think some friends think I'm crazy, that the things that I want to come true will come true at the time I need them to. But in the meantime, the things I took from the secret to do are:
visualize my day each morning (I'm better at this during the weekday) down to my commute to and from work, being productive at work, planning social activities, exercising, what i'll eat (I could do better at the last one)
keep checking in on how I'm feeling and avoid negative thought
keep in mind all of the things i am thankful for
make a list of all the things that bring me joy (big and small)
feel and act as if I already have/am the things that I desire
Is this easy? Well if I said no, that would be going against the logic of the secret but well... you decide.
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was just listening to the classic 80s song, If You Leave, that played in Pretty in Pink and it made me think of Molly Ringwald which then made me think
of teen movies and I just realized that the kids/teens of today don’t
have a lot of fun options out. Unless you have cable and they are still
kind of lame to me. I mean there was Breakfast Club in the 80s then
Clueless in the 90s. Those were epic teen movies of their time. I guess
the early 2000s had High School Musical but that was only on the Disney
Channel and it was still weak comparatively. It made me think of other
things late Gen Xers/ early Millennials had that I don’t think kids/teens fully have now:
I’d come home in the afternoon and see the latest videos and interviews
with stars, before that there was Dick Clark, Soul Train, now what?If you don't catch it on YouTube it's hard to keep up. It used to be the thing to catch the latest Micheal Jackson video on Thursday night and talk about it at school.
morning cartoons and teen sitcoms- Yes, I know there is cable now for
all that but there was something special about having that Saturday
morning line up till 12 then you go out to play. And Although Disney and Nickelodeon
have many reincarnations of Saved By the Bell and the Boy Meets World
Spin off (thumbs down), it’s not the same feeling when you watch it at random times.
and Saturday night comedies- If you were a kid and of course weren’t
partying it up on the weekend nights it was good to have some TV options
everyone else watched. Do kids have that kind of line up now? I mean,
it’s the reason I love the Golden Girls because it came on Saturday
night and lasted 7 darn seasons. And everyone watched Family Matters. What Friday and Saturday night series are there now?
there was a lot more “teeny bopper” music back then. We had The Boys,
ABC, a young Brandy and Monica, Tevin Campbell, Usher. And that’s just
the R&B side (Hanson anyone)? Now you have Justin Beiber and some random Beiber like types whose names I don't know. Very limited.
even those don’t seem as cool. Everything is computer based. If the
power goes out, you better make sure you have some old school toys with
you or that the battery is fully charged.When I saw a little child touch a book like it was touch screen I realized that things were changing and I wonder if its better, worse or just different.
Or maybe I'm just out of touch with kids and just have no idea what's cool. Do kids still even use the word cool. *cracks back and takes a seat*
am so sad about what is happening with the news right now.
The two Malaysian air flights, one shot down and one still missing. The
Algerian plane crash, the war in Israel and the killing of all those
innocent civilians, are the girls still missing in Nigeria?, the
conflict in Syria. It’s too much and makes me feel so helpless. It
really conflicts with the teachings of the Secret. I am torn with
wanting to know about what’s going on and trying to help if I can and
not wanting to hear such negative news to knock me off my positivity
side issue I have with The Secret is that it fully believes that we
allow negative things to happen to us. It does not believe that bad
things happen to good people or “it is what it is” type of thing. It
believes that if you don’t think out your day and plan for it to go a
certain way in detail in your mind then you are opening up the universe
to plan your day for you and allow anything to happen. This has met with
a lot of criticism from people who were hurt or loss loved ones in mass
attacks (9/11) or natural disasters (like Katrina). I struggle with
that concept because I find it kind of cold.
every morning for the past couple of weeks after my car accident I do a
mental picture of how I want my day to go from the time I get in my car
to what I will be doing up until I go to bed. It works… But is it a
definite? Can you really avoid bad things from happening. Sure you can
take things that happen to you and make something positive out of it be
it as a role model, lesson learned, new opportunity for something you
wouldn’t have done otherwise. But outside of that, what do you do? I
think of those girls who were locked in that basement for like ten
years. They were teens/early twenties then I believe. I know The Secret
is not saying they deserved what happened to them but the explanation
for what happened to them can’t be, well they didn’t think out their day
so they allowed any random thing to happen to them that the universe
threw out them.
understand the law of attraction but I wonder if we truly have the
power to affect everything that comes our way. Yes we have free will but
ultimately isn’t it all about what The Creator (however you choose to
call him/her) decides? Can you truly believe you can control your life
with such detail while at the same time believing that ultimately it’s
in God’s proverbial hands? Or is it the belief that whatever you throw
out into the universe that you want, even if it’s just to get a parking
space, is therefore, the same that God wants for you? Is that too
convenient a thought? Do we have the power?
next challenge is thinking in the now. I can easily say to myself I
want to lose weight or I want to be a certain weight or size by a
certain date. However according to the Secret, you have to think you
have it all now or you’ll forever be in the realm of trying and wanting.
So I have to say, think and feel that I’m already at the weight I
want to be or already have the great relationship I’ve been dreaming of.
How do you do that without feeling silly or delusional? If your goal is
to be married to a wonderful husband, how do you actively feel that way
and tell yourself that you already have it and thank the Lord for it?
If you see an outfit in a size 6 and you are a size 10 do you get the
size 6 because that’s your goal size and the size you tell yourself you
are? Seriously how does that work right?
So after reading the
chapter on relationships (which I think was way too short and in need of
more detail). I discovered that to get the relationship/marriage you
desire, you don’t walk around like a crazy person talking about your
imaginary Larry boyfriend. You have to be in a loving state of mind.
Prepare your life to have room for love (so I guess my collection of
stuffed animals on display wouldn’t fly if I was living with a guy so I
suppose I shouldn’t keep them propped up- this is an example of course, I
really don’t have a pile of stuffed animals I can’t part with…).
the things you love to do (and no, saying well I don’t love work so I
won’t go, doesn’t work- find something you love about it, like, er,
Think of things and people that you love and of course make sure you love yoself.
within all this love fest you will, ta-da, attract more love. Because,
and it’s taking a moment to click with me, the Secret is all about The
Law of Attraction. Everything you say/think/do will act like a magnet to
attract more of it. If you call yourself a klutz, low and behold, you
will keep being in situations where you trip and knock things over. If
you believe you are a great singer then you will find that people around
you will think (or at least tell) you are (this explains the people who
end up on American Idol auditions sounding a hot mess, no one around
them told them they sound like a dying cat).
So don’t just pretend, be it. Or in Yoda’s words “Do or do not, there is no try” or something like that.
The main challenge with my journey into the Secret is
maintaining positive thinking. I’m not Oscar the Grouch all the time but I’m
not skipping around seeing rainbow and butterflies (by the way, I hate
butterflies, they scare me- see there I go again).
The point is thinking lovely thoughts from morning to sleepy
time is not an easy thing for me.
But I have devoted myself to putting my all into this for at
least 30 days which is how long, I’ve read, it takes to make something a habit.
And let me tell you, this is work. I wake up and before I
get out of bed I envision my day down to the small things like what I will eat.
Then I go through my morning ritual while giving thanks as I do them (which is
no easy task, sometimes, although in theory I am thankful, I don’t feel it in
my bones as I side listen to some mass shooting in a state on TV). I also do
self checks through out the day. How do I feel? Am I actually feeling content
or happy? The part of the Secret that is the kicker is that you can’t just say
or think positive, you have to feel it.
Like how would you feel if you won the lottery? What does
that physically feel like? You gotta actually feel that way all the time. Lemme
tell ya, not an easy task. So no, I don’t actually go around 24/7 jumping for
joy. I do it in spurts and the rest of the time I just try to make sure I feel
content and avoid bad feelings as best I can.
I will say it helps. Yesterday when leaving work, I tried
the “lotto feeling” as I call it. I was whistling from my office to the car,
around the grocery store. I genuinely felt good. I came home. Ate some dinner.
Was starting to feel lethargic but I needed to go workout. So I took myself out
and still felt ugh (ok, so I had some Cheetos and I know that didn’t help). But
I started jogging. I was shaky about whether I could do my 5k jog/walk I
usually do after my poor eating choices but I still felt positive and I kept
thinking “I got this”. Morale of the story, not only did I have it, I ran my
fastest half mile and during the second half of the jog, felt energized, sang
along (okay one sentence, I got tired) to my music and was SMILING as I jogged.